At one point my wife attended a number of small group activities where the participants were a select group of women. This group was very picky about who they let join them. Not all people wanted to or could be in this group because of the restrictions. So the group stayed small and selective. Yet at the same time they didn’t want to make others feeling badly that they weren’t invited so they didn’t broadcast that they formed this group.
That was until one person took a picture and posted it on Facebook. Their intentions were pure – they wanted to share their happiness about being a part of a wonderful, loving group of women. There is nothing wrong with this, except that there were others who saw the photo and felt badly for not being invited. They realized there was a party going on that they weren’t invited to. Should those persons be strong enough to be able to understand that they can’t be invited to everything? Yes. But that often isn’t the case. Because of that one posted photo, a lot of hurt feelings were created and the unpleasant work of damage control started. In this case, the woman who posted the photo didn’t ask what the unintended consequences might be.
This brings me to the point: What questions are we not asking that we ought to be asking?
Within our businesses, our careers, our families, our marriages, with our children, with our personal relationships – what questions have we not asked that we should have asked?